The Art Of Letting Go

You are growing a business.

You have selected how you want to add value, help people, and make this world a much better place.

It’s time to go out there, work hard, hustle, and be successful in what you do.

To do this you set goals in order to set a direction and to maintain focus.

What happens when you set your goal?

You may be excited, driven and committed to making it happen.

But you start to attach meaning!

What does it mean if you don’t reach this goal?

What does it mean if it takes longer than expected?

What if you run into unforeseen obstacles?

What would you make it mean about your business? Is it a poor idea, were you given the wrong information, did the plan or strategy ‘not work’?

What do you make it mean about yourself?

Are YOU now a failure? Are you not good enough, or maybe you are stuck with your current quality of life?

These are just about the first questions I ask a new client who jumps into my 6-week program.

It helps me understand their world because what makes something a problem is how you think about it.

Nothing is a problem until you have a thought about it and your thought makes it a problem.

However, you can see why there is so much pressure to succeed if the external result is what makes you feel successful, worthy and good enough.

It is only very recently that I realised this for myself.

I had done all the mental work to not beat myself up and not make failure mean anything about who I am as a person. However, I was waiting for success until I give myself permission of feeling good enough.

Our brains are very sneaky! Apparently, mine is not different!

There is still that internal ‘pressure’ to succeed, whether that’s conscious or not. This can cause us to fixate on the goal, focus on the ‘how’ and like a fly, beat our heads against the glass because we want to get outside so bad.

This can cause us to often break down. We can break down with overwhelm, stress, anxiety, all because we make the achievement mean something we are so desperate to gain.

But let’s look at another perspective, and that is to let go.

Let go of these stupid stories we tell ourselves about what success or failure will mean about us.

When we let go, the breakdown turns into a breakthrough.

We realise our goals set direction and focus, but they do not define us. We are already whole right here, right now.

What makes a baby good enough?

The simple fact that they are instantly good enough because they are here on the planet. Why does that have to change as we get older?

When you start to let go, you can relax and view your options from an abundance resourceful space.

You can stop the hustle strategically so you may see and accept other paths to your goals.

Most importantly, you won’t make success or failure mean anything about you and who you are in this world.

Be careful about what your brain has been telling you, and be conscious enough to recognise if its serving you.

Thanks all!